A skill that everyone needs to the resume, but in fact, few people keep..

It's about resilience.

The ability to manage stress is a real superpower these days. Over the past two months, many have already seen this.

In fact, it became apparent back in 2020. Over the past few years, I have paid attention to statistics among psychologists and psychotherapists.

Pandemic, telecommuting, social isolation, health threats – all this is becoming the strongest stress factors that provoke the growth of mental illness in a large number of people around the world.

Agree: 2022 was also marked by events that few people are guarded indifferent. People faced uncertainty, the inevitability of change, the flow of negative information, the collapse of some goals and instability.

In both of these periods, I watched how some people, when faced with all factors, fell into a state of complete apathy and emotional realization to the limit. Others go into intense and uncontrollable anxiety. Someone can not cope with the usual daily tasks, some even pause for the duration of their activity.

Another part of the people continued to lead the same way of life, work actively, quickly decide on situations and find new opportunities. For such people, any crisis is a time of opportunity and growth, not a reason to give up. This is because they are able to manage stress.

So such a skill as stress resistance largely determines the behavior of people in characters. The ability to manage stress is not just a line in the resume for beauty, but an advantage that allows you to find a way out of any difficult situations.

That is why the goal of my new challenge was the development of stress resistance.

NeuroChef.

5 Hard Life Lessons You Must Accept If You Want to Grow Into the Best Version Of Yourself. Tread 1/5.What got you here, won’t get you there.

The strategies that made you successful in the past will, at some point, reach their limit. Don’t let your previous choices set your future ceiling. The willingness to try new ideas allows you to keep advancing.” — James Clear

Every stage of your life requires a new version of yourself.

The mindset that got you where you are today will not be the mindset that will you get to the next stage of life.

You need to evolve to live a better future or you’ll end up repeating the past.

Your attitude towards life will determine the altitude you reach in your life.At some point in life, your skillset will stop being as valuable as the attitude you bring towards your work.

Most skills can be learned for free or low cost or automated. You can learn anything you want from the internet.

Knowledge used to be expensive. Knowledge is now cheap.

It is the desire to learn that is now scarce.

In the 21st century, deep technical expertise is a diminishing asset.

How you treat people is more important than how skilled you are. Being kind is no longer an option or nice to have. Your reputation and level of integrity will be the value you bring into the workforce.

From my experience, here are some signs that you have a good attitude:

- You treat people equally regardless of status or rank.

- 99% of people enjoy working with you.

- You get lots of repeat clients in your freelance business.

- People tend to pick up your phone calls and answer your emails.

Neuro Chef.

​​Self-Development Should Be A Priority.

The Cambridge dictionary defines self-development as “the act of deciding for yourself how to improve your skills and taking action to do this.” But unless you have a growth mindset, you can’t take part in self-development.

What do I mean?Well, first of all, let’s define a growth mindset. People with a growth mindset believe they can grow their knowledge, intelligence, skills, and talents. And they take the necessary steps or actions to develop their initial qualities. They believe they can become more intelligent and get better.

On the other hand, there are some people who think differently. They have a fixed mindset instead. People with a fixed mindset believe their skills, intelligence, knowledge, and attributes are unchangeable and inherently fixed. They believe they are as intelligent as they will ever be; therefore, they don’t aspire to develop themselves. If that’s you, then you must change your mindset.

Self-development is a key to success

Self-development should be everyone’s priority. Why? Well, if you don’t develop yourself, nothing will change in your life. In other words, if you remain the same person, your life will remain the same. You’d experience the same results, problems, disappointments, and failures, and repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Is that what you want? No, I guess…

People who experience better results in their lives spend time developing themselves. I am referring to successful people like Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Jeff Bezos, Larry Page, Sergey Brin, etc. Those people developed themselves to achieve their success and funnily enough, they haven’t stopped developing themselves despite their wealth and achievements. They are still working towards increasing their skills, knowledge, talents and intelligence. Isn’t that impressive to see billionaires who are still developing themselves? Yes, it is. I’m very impressed with it. This means if we all want to be as great as those people, we should all take part in self-development. I’m not only talking about making billions like them but rather making an impact on the world and other people’s lives. Success is not defined by how much money you have, but by the impact you make on the world and other people’s lives.

This is what those billionaires have done. They all made an impact on this world.

Thanks to Bill Gates, we can use Microsoft, thanks to Mark Zuckenberg we can use Facebook, thanks to Jeff Bezos we can use Amazon, and thanks to Larry Page and Sergey Brin we can use Google. That’s the real definition of success: “to make an impact on the world and other people’s lives.” And one thing is certain, self-development will help you achieve success and everything else you want to achieve in life.

Do you want a better life? You need to develop yourself first.

Do you want a happy marriage? You need to develop yourself first.

Do you want to be the best student in your class? You need to develop yourself first.

Go get it!NeuroChef.

​​20 Short Life Lessons I Learned From Reading Over 100 Self Development Books.1. A person’s past behavior is the most reliable predictor of future behavior. In the words of Maya Angelou, “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

1. Most success in your life is due to consistency, not talent. Eighty percent of life is just showing up no matter what. Repetition and discipline beat talent. Look at Tom Brady.

2. You don’t get what you deserve, you get what you expect. Your mindset becomes a self-fulling prophecy. Therefore, the attitude towards life determines the altitudes you will reach in life.

3. Your happiness is having the correct balance in your life. The unique balance of meaningful work, relationships and opportunities. None of these things will give you happiness by themselves.

4. You are defined by your actions, not your words. Stop talking about what you want to achieve and start taking action to accomplish them.

5. Most people spend their entire lives either trying to be exactly like their parents or trying their hardest to be nothing like them at all. Understanding your childhood experiences can help you break this cycle.

6. You can’t remove an idea in someone’s head with logic that was not placed there by logic in the first place. Stay out of emotional debates. Few people are genuinely committed to the truth.

7. Most people don’t want to change so stop trying to make them. You only have three options: accept them, create clear boundaries or move on.

8. You can change your life simply by telling yourself a new story. The metaphors you tell yourself are the metaphors you live by. The most secure prisons are those we construct for ourselves.

9. You can’t grow without pain or suffering. It is painful to change your relationships, environment or mindset. Painless growth is only temporary relief, not a long-term cure.

10. You are responsible for what happens to you. Don’t play the victim. No one is coming to save you. Your happiness is your responsibility.

11. “Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least. While it takes two people to create a relationship, it takes only one to end it.” — Gordon Livingston

12. Your greatest strengths are often your greatest weaknesses. What determines which is which often depends on context. What makes someone successful in their professional life can make them insufferable in their personal life.

13. If you never take risks, your life will never move forward. The greatest risk is never taking any. What is the biggest risk you’ve ever taken? The answer should give you all you need.

14. If you’re comfortable, you’ve plateaued. Comfort is fertile ground for mediocrity. Growth only happens when you’re uncomfortable.

15. Adversity only reveals what is inside of you. How did you use your time and energy during the pandemic? Did you improve your life or did it stay the same? Your answer is what is at the core of you.

16. Your mind is the greatest asset for your success in life. Before you achieve anything, you must be able to imagine first.

17. Success requires commitment. You can’t aim for a target you refuse to see. Ambiguity in your goals leads to ambiguity in your results.

18. If you have to constantly signal how virtuous you are you probably aren’t very virtuous. If someone has to say, “trust me, I am an honest person” how trustworthy are they really?

19. The only form of communication that can be trusted is someone’s behavior. There is a large gap between what people say and what people do. Judge actions, not words.

NeuroChef.

​​Productivity.

Do you frequently find yourself losing control of your workday? You begin each day with the intention of doing a great deal, but quickly find yourself side-tracked, focusing on low-priority activities, and just delaying.

So, how can you reclaim control over your time? You can end every workday with a satisfied sigh of relief, knowing that you completed all the tasks on your to-do list.

1. Put an end to multitasking.

It is a productivity killer. According to research, the mental barriers that occur when people switch activities can lower productivity by up to 40%. Even more striking, in a University of London research, some multitasking men’s IQ plummeted by 15 points.
Do you require further proof? Multitasking may be detrimental to your brain’s health.
The study discovered that those who were addicted to using numerous gadgets at the same time had decreased Gray-matter density in a brain region called the anterior cingulate cortex, which is associated with emotional regulation and decision-making, empathy, and the brain’s response to rewards.
Stop attempting to achieve everything at once. Instead, focus your entire concentration on one work at a time to drastically enhance productivity.

2. Complete the most important activities while you are the most attentive.

We all put off huge ambitions because we’re not sure we’ll be able to complete them… And by the time we get to them, we’re too exhausted from the day to give them the attention they require.
That’s how projects wind up extending into extra days, giving the impression that production has vanished.
Understanding when and how you work best is critical to completing large tasks on schedule. There is no one-size-fits-all timetable… If you are a morning person, handle the major responsibilities first thing in the morning.

3. Get Plenty of Sleep.

Did you know that 70% of the people admit to falling asleep at work? People are falling asleep at work simply because they need to. Because of early-morning commutes, lengthy job hours, and too many obligations at home, an increasing number of individuals aren’t getting enough sleep.
We’re all aware that not getting enough sleep has a bad impact on our effectiveness in all aspects of our life.
However, it has an even higher influence in the workplace since the prefrontal cortex, which assists us with jobs that involve logical thinking and complicated thought, is harmed by lack of sleep, and will hamper us while attempting to do such duties.
As a result, it is critical that we all receive adequate sleep every night in order to maintain peak productivity. If you’re an adult between the ages of 26 and 64, it means getting between 7–9 hours of sleep every night.
When organizing your day, make sure that everything on your to-do list is accomplished in time for you to obtain between 7–9 hours of sleep every night.

​​What’s Your Most Productive Work Time?Whether you call them your golden hours or peak work times, or biological prime times, these are when we have the most concentration and energy. As such, we shouldn’t waste these hours. Instead, we should spend them on our most important and challenging tasks. But, before we get there, we first need to identify when you’re actually the most productive.

You likely already know when your most productive time is. For example, I’m a morning person and wake up around 6-7. Because of this, I’m more alert in the A.M. But, I also have also worked with people who are night owls, and forcing themselves to wake-up as early as I do would be counterproductive.

**How to find your most productive hours:

▫️Choose a time tracking period.**The first step you need to take is to determine when you want to start tracking your time and for how long. Some suggest that you can get away with just tracking your time for a week. But I disagree. The longer you follow your time, the more accurate of a picture you’ll have. Ideally, you should do this for 30 days.

▫️Get the right tools.You can honestly stay old school and use a pen and paper for this activity. You could also use a notebook or index cards

▫️Maintaining your time log.Here’s the moment you’ve been waiting for, actually tracking your time.
Jeremy Anderberg writes that there are two necessary frameworks for tracking your time. The first tracking is using the time of day. If you go this route, “you’ll write down your activity for a set chunk of time, say 9–9:15 am. Set a timer for every 15 minutes (at first, at least; it can be longer as you’ve gotten into it), and take a quick second to jot down what you’ve been doing.

The second is by the task. “With this method, you’ll go about your day and activities as normal, and simply write down what time you change tasks and start something new,” explains Anderberg.

​​Determine the best time to solve problems.

Make a plan for the day, taking into account work tasks. You can start with a simple question: “What do I want to do today?” Let this be the first goal of the day.

Do not forget to include breaks between work in the schedule. And at the end of the day, analyze your productivity and determine at what hours you were most efficient. This will help you plan for future tasks.

The ability to hold attention while working is a matter of habit. It takes time and desire. Start today and soon you will be able to stay focused in any situation and setting.

​​Our biggest enemies

I’m talking about your screens. Your phone, laptop, tablet,… they’re all designed to make you stay glued to your screen. But what’s good for social media giants like Facebook is deadly for your brain health.

If your eyes start to hurt and feel dry while staring at your screens, you know you should stop and take a break. Yet, the problem is that we‘re mostly not even aware of these obvious signs.
Instead, we keep scrolling because the Instagram feed looks tempting or because we think we need to reply to one more email.

Yet, studies show a direct link between screentime and depression. And it’s no wonder because most of the content we consume online is negative and harms our wellbeing.
First, we face mental overstimulation.

Second, our eyes hurt.

Third, most media and negative news harm our emotions and negatively impact our thinking.
And if that’s still not enough reasons to curb down your screen time, studies also show that too much screen time impairs brain structure and function.

What to do:

You don’t have to avoid social media or technology altogether. It’s just about setting healthy boundaries and making sure you control your media consumption, not the other way around.
Most smartphones allow you to track your screen time to see how much time you spend using your device.

For the next few days, analyze your screen usage and ask yourself how you could minimize it, so you have more time to invest in meaningful activities.

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​​7 Daily Habits That Harm Your Brain.

1. Doing Nothing.

Think of your brain like a muscle: If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it.

Your brain is designed to think. Challenging thoughts, new skills, different languages, interesting conversations, reading, new experiences, or even puzzles and crosswords can help stimulate your brain and develop neuroplacticity, which refers to the brain’s ability to adapt.

Like any muscle, your brain needs to be used and flexed to stay in shape.

What to do:
Research proves that brain exercises have a positive effect on our cognitive abilities. So, what are you waiting for? Ask yourself what you could do this week to train your brain.
What about reading a new book on a topic you’re not familiar with? Or signing up for that French or Spanish class you always wanted to visit?
What’s one thing that sounds a little bit scary but still tempting?

Find it out and make a plan to get started as soon as possible.