"العلم وسيلة من الوسائل، ليس مقصودا لنفسه من حيث النظر الشرعي، وإنما هو وسيلة إلى العمل، وكل ما ورد في فضل العلم؛ فإنما هو ثابت للعلم من جهة ما هو مكلف بالعمل به" الشاطبي | الموافقات

"العلم وسيلة من الوسائل، ليس مقصودا لنفسه من حيث النظر الشرعي، وإنما هو وسيلة إلى العمل، وكل ما ورد في فضل العلم؛ فإنما هو ثابت للعلم من جهة ما هو مكلف بالعمل به"

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البعض لا يفهم حقيقة قول الله تعالى: (إن ينصركم الله فلا غالب لكم) فتجده يبحث عن المؤامرات وراء كل نصر، بينما يطمئن المؤمن وهو يرى آثار معية الله للمؤمنين.
وما حصل اليوم في حلب هو فتح من الله ونصر، بعد بذل تامٍّ للأسباب وجهود طويلة مضنية في الاستعداد لمثل هذا اليوم، فبارك الله في هذه الأسباب والجهود -على قلتها مقابل قوة العدو- وكتب بها الفتح، وحقق وعده، ونصر جنده، وأرانا بركة اجتماع الكلمة وأقام علينا الحجة في ذلك.
فاللهم أتمّ علينا نعمتك يا حي يا قيوم،
وأكرمنا بمثلها في فلسطين والسودان وكل مكان يُستَضْعَف فيه المؤمنون.
والله أكبر والعزّة لله..

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How To Have Peaceful Marital Arguments

If you want your marital arguments to be peaceful, adopt this principle: whoever starts a complaint, the other person's first job is to reflect and ask, "What did I do wrong here? What could I have done better?"

Let’s break this down. 

When Your Husband Complains
If your husband comes to you with complaints—whether about one issue or several—your immediate response should be to listen carefully and reflect on your mistakes and what you could have done better.

For instance, if he mentions a problem, and you believe you truly did wrong but he also has some fault in the matter, resist the urge to debate, instead, focus on your own errors, acknowledge them, apologize, and promise to make amends.

Why? Because at that moment, he is the complainant, and addressing your share of the issue first will help de-escalate the situation.  After the issue has been solved, you can then raise your own grievances too and respectfully point out his errors in the matter as well.

When Your Wife Complains
On the other hand, if your wife comes to you with concerns, even if she is a bit disrespectful, your immediate focus should not be on defending yourself or pointing out her faults. Instead, take responsibility for your part in the problem. Listen attentively, reflect on your faults, and acknowledge what you could have done better. This sets the tone for constructive communication and builds trust. 

Once the initial discussion is complete and you’ve acknowledged your mistakes, you can then address how the complaint was presented or any grievances of your own. This can be immediate, or maybe even postponed, depending on what you consider to be more beneficial.

In a lot of cases, postponing the talk about your wife's fault to a later time will make her more remorseful and ready to apologize.

For example, if she called your atention to a fault on Sunday night and then you addressed it and are both good, then Monday night, you might say, “Yesterday, the way you brought this up felt disrespectful. I would have preferred if you spoke calmly instead of raising your voice. Next time, can you discuss such matters in a more respectful manner by doing xyz?”

At this point, the roles reverse. You are now the complainant, and it’s your wife’s turn to reflect on their part. Her job is not to deflect or justify but to acknowledge where they went wrong. 

The Key to Resolving Arguments 
The principle is simple: when it’s your turn to listen, listen to understand, not to defend. Focus on what you could have done differently before addressing what your spouse did wrong. This approach prevents arguments from spiraling into blame games and creates an atmosphere of mutual respect. 

Avoid These Common Pitfalls

1. For Wives: When your husband is the one complaining, avoid falling into the trap of manipulating the conversation or playing the victim. Don’t interrupt with, “I know, but what you did was worse!” Instead, focus on taking responsibility for your actions before raising your concerns. 
   
2. For Husbands: When your wife brings a complaint, set aside your ego. Acknowledge your faults first. Once her concerns are addressed, you can calmly point out her mistakes in a respectful and constructive manner. 

Summarily, when disagreements arise, timing and attitude matter. Always address your spouse's concerns first before presenting your own. By doing so, you create an environment of trust and mutual understanding. Arguments, no matter how small, will no longer escalate into major conflicts. Instead, you’ll find yourselves solving problems with peace and maturity—bi idhnillah.

This approach requires humility, patience, and a genuine desire to improve your relationship. But if you stick to it, the rewards are a more harmonious and loving marriage.

LRH
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‎اللهمّ صَّلِ وسَلّمْ عَلىٰ نَبِيْنَا مُحَمد

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"And be patient for the sake of your Lord." [74:7]