You are either initiator or observer but in both cases you are a victim.

Imagine yourself in a world where everyone shared their bad stories or sad days on social media ( instagram).

A question arises: would you still follow them?

In the current world, we observe others and expect only to see their successes—not necessarily in the sense of “success = money or supercars,” but more so the positive aspects of their lives.. We are living in a world where showing our bad days or low moments is considered “weak.”

Everybody now posts mostly perfect moments. Everyone assumes that everyone else’s life is great. After observing this, when something goes wrong in someone’s life, be it depression or simply mistakes, a person might start doubting himself. He may think, “Am I the only one like this? To what extent is my mistake normal?” Because he doesn’t see/find his current problems on others often -> people hide them.

Maybe if people like Tate or Musk shared every single day their aggressive or high-pressure moments and how they cope with them, wouldn’t we learn more than just finding reels/stories like “Discipline is key”? No one talks about how they get through difficult days or each sad minute or second.

Instead, people now showcase their illusionary successes, leaving observers as both victims and enablers of this culture.

Conclusion: Society doesn’t accept straight and true people ( social confirmation) , they see him as a weak person. What i am encouraging for now is to normalize showing and posting the bad moments, which actually can make life easier, more authentic, and more relatable.

If you are not in a shape, but you still going to gym - that’s win. If you are not rich, but you are working towards it - that’s win. You don’t need to be perfect; you just need to try. Improving even by 0.5% each day is a win. Keep your head down and focus…

The biggest demotivation that is very popular right now.

I am writing this post because I see a lot of young men struggling with this, including myself in the very past.

The worst thing that can stop this generation, mainly males, from chasing success is falling in love with someone—especially when it’s not mutual.

Let’s talk about break-ups or simply rejections.

Trust me, however, the man is mentally intelligent, and it will still prevent him from focusing on his career path. True, first love will push you to become more wise and smarter, but second or third love will break you. This won’t be any more motivation for you to develop yourself, it is rather limitless thoughts that will hurt and only hurt you. You will start doubting yourself like you are not capable of doing something.

The biggest thing that we are missing is the precious time that we had to spend on something productive, instead, we are lost in our thoughts and memories. replaying scenarios, thinking we should’ve said something different or acted differently. We make ourselves feel guilty, arguing with our inner self that we could have fixed the situation. But, no, stop thinking, it’s already gone, I know how perfect she seemed for you, but you can’t change anything. Let it be.

The most important attitude or response to this situation is to stay in the game, be it crawling or barely walking, but to stay in the marathon.

I don't knowany any practical solution for these teenagers, but there is a solution to the almost different scenario. From my own experience and what I’ve seen on many people, the best advice for those, who are in such a pre-depression or even earlier stage, which nowadays people call in “situationship ”:

The best and the only thing - don’t be addicted.

Try to make a distance for yourself, make sure it’s not going deeper, if you start feeling your mood starts to depend on her or you find yourself constantly waiting for her messages, very immediately pull back, ignore, give space to her and also yourself. Again, pull back yourself, don’t be addicted, and give space to her. Let her to make a first step.

it turns out that I have Koinophobia )

22nd September. I turned 18. I am again reflecting. Thank god, my parents, friends, and myself for where I am here right now. Thanks to myself, for shaping myself. Thanks to myself for being resilient during the hardest times, and for enduring heartbreaks…

22nd September. I turned 18. I am again reflecting.

Thank god, my parents, friends, and myself for where I am here right now. Thanks to myself, for shaping myself. Thanks to myself for being resilient during the hardest times, and for enduring heartbreaks and mental breaks. For every bit of stress I went through, thank you, me. Gratitude to myself for not giving up but instead growing, showing my spirit, and becoming a better version of myself each day.Thank you, me, for making me happy to be able to show positive reactions to everything, to be a good friend, to be able to follow my priorities, and lastly thanks to myself for still chasing my dream.

Growing up, I was a well-rounded. I was involved in everything. Was it time to study? I studied. If I didn’t want to go to a lesson, I skipped it with ease. I didn’t care. Was it time to work? I worked. My friend was driving a car?Let’s go. We’re playing football or tennis? Let’s go. Walk until the morning? Go ahead. Tomorrow’s midterms? Let’s study. If I didn’t want to study, I would cheat on the test that day. But i knew one thing, I knew that I could figure it out, if not, I didn’t care. Even if I got 3, it is not the end of the world.

I was living with the mindset that I didn’t need to go to school or college. I did my little business at 15. I wanted to drop out of school in 9th grade. I wanted to succeed at a young age and inspire people. But my parents stepped in and convinced me otherwise. You know what? I still live with this mindset. 18 years, every year was different, but each year taught me something. This year taught me: “ Live in the process, focus on gaining skills along the way, don’t focus at the end of the marathon, don’t regret the past actions that are out of your control, and try to be careless”

What about you? What has this year taught you?

I wish for my future self, even the things get hard not to give up since the hard times are just coming, to be able to concentrate, to be a good son of my parents, to maintain a proper balance in college life, reveal my charisma, and remain my self.

Thanks for reading

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