Be kinder to yourself

We make too heavy demands on ourselves and blame ourselves for faults we would forgive another person immediately. Don't do that.

Stop putting yourself down, be kinder to yourself. Treat your own actions and thoughts with compassion and respect.

Ask Personal Questions

Use this trick if you need to get someone to like you immediately. It also works the other way around. Tell something personal about yourself to earn a person's trust. But don't spill your guts at once. Give it out gradually.

Repeat your interlocutor's body language.

If both repeat each other's movements and facial expressions, it means that the contact is established. That way you can even check how well the conversation is going. Try to sit a little differently and see if the person does the same.

Keep Your Emotions Under Control

An intense emotional reaction can be perceived by a toxic person as a manifestation of weakness and insecurity, which will trigger them to even more provocation: inappropriate jokes, manipulation and unfair criticism.

?? Keeping an emotional distance requires awareness. Periodically, you will find that you are in a situation where you need to stop and choose the best course of action. Sometimes the best course of action is to smile and nod, and in the meantime, pause and plan your next steps.

Time to live!

Anxiety, worries, fears, grudges - this is what concerns every person every day.

Only for some reason people prefer to look the other way.

If the stomach is bothering you, for example, you go to the doctor.

✔however, when they have depressive thoughts and a burden on their chest - they bottle up their emotions and they live on. And the situation only gets more complicated.

Enough is enough! Stop lying to yourself that you don't have the time, energy or money to take care of yourself. Tale care of your thoughts, your beautiful soul and break the circle of survival.

✔a circle where you struggle with problems, difficulties, sometimes even with relatives.

✔Take the firdt step, do it! Only you and your own to feet are able to do it.

Second opinions

Freedom of speech and equality, to which the whole world is actively striving, can sometimes backfire. There are information attacks and hoaxes, news which are absurd but still lots of people believe.

▫️And there is a single reason for all of this — everyone seeks to impose their own opinions. Sharing personal views is not so bad, but what if a person is completely incompetent in what they say?

Everyone wants to give their 2 cents where nobody asked. And you, as a reasonable person, should be able to understand and sense the difference between what is worth listening to and what is not.

Don't even try to explain anything - they will still try to prove the opposite to you with foam at the mouth. However, if you see that a person is disposed to criticism, then this is not such a bad idea — you can thoroughly discuss it.

11 Things Worse Than Cheating

Cheating is a quick and 100% way to ruin a relationship, but there are lots of other things that are just as, if not more, dangerous when it comes to risks to marital happiness.

▪️ Lying and hiding things from your partner.

▪️ Not being completely attached to the person.

▪️ Quiet disagreement.

▪️ Lack of communication.

▪️ Stubbornness, not compromising.

▪️ Arguing over trivial things and everyday issues.

▪️ Condescension.

▪️ Staying in a relationship of convenience.

▪️ Manipulating.

▪️ Jealousy.

▪️ Pretending.

I don't judge, I accept and support.

That's because there is no single model of happiness for everyone.
I feel really perplexed when Nancy, a happy mother of many children, insistently advises Mary, a career woman, to have children, and Mary, in response, rolling her eyes and clicking her tongue, advises Nancy to drop everything and go to Japan, to the Hanami holiday.

Why do people think that there is only one happiness model - THEIR OWN❓

After all, the world is so beautiful in its diversity of shapes and colors. And there is nothing more foolish than trying to fit everything and everyone into one single theory.

The border is LOCKED

We lock our apartment, guard our car with alarms, check if our backpack is locked, and if our wallet and credit cards are safe. But often, while keeping things safe, we forget to take care of our inner security. Each of us has our own private world. And only YOU have the right to decide where its boundaries, who to let into it, and who - absolutely not.

Healthy psychological boundaries are:
- Awareness of the value of one's opinion.
- Conformity to internal attitudes and priorities.
- Careful handling of personal information.
- Understanding your own wants and needs.
- The ability to say NO.
- The ability to respect others' privacy.

Personal boundaries serve us as a reliable FARE guard, protecting us from unnecessary intrusions and stress, and preserve our inner harmony.

Diary therapy
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Nothing new, everything is as old as the WORLD.
By the way, the practice of keeping diaries dates back to ancient Japan in the 10th century, when the ladies of the court kept records of their life and love in "sleep books".
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So how does a diary work❓
It's a great, if not the best, tool for REFLECTION - getting to know yourself, your feelings and emotions. It's the best way to safely EXPRESS yourself - the case when pen and paper are your best friends. Paper will accept everything: your anger, your sorrow, your love and your craziest ideas.

But it is worth keeping a diary consciously, so that it is not just a remedy for your stress or anxiety, but so that it can help you understand and realize yourself more deeply.

Abundant people never argue in queues

They don't write nasty things on social networks, or insult their colleagues, or lose their temper in family life.
— If they need something, they ask.
— If they feel uncomfortable, they talk about it.