The Most Dangerous Plaything & The Most Laborious Burden – Note: Easily a top 5 article

Women are chaos (emotionalism) neurotically seeking order (protection/provision), men are order (rationality/authority) seeking chaos (thrill of adventure).

So poetically even though the woman is chaotic, she takes man away from adventure through her need for order from him.

Nietzsche said men love danger and play, which is why man loves woman as his most dangerous plaything.

In reality, probably only true within the context of a mistress or "fun woman" - but not within the marital context where she represents more obligation than indulgence.

This is why woman constantly wants her man's attention and is prone to "clinging" (craving order), whilst men like time and space away from their woman to engage in their hobbies.

He wants a break from his obligation to pursue adventure.

Many women resent their men for this.

Women are inherently playful by nature of their chaos, but it fast becomes unstable due to an overabundance of said chaos, and so they seek stabilisation so they can "play within safe bounds." Man on the other hand lives so rigidly due to duty that he seeks chaos to let off steam

So for men there's 2 kinds of women - women of obligation, and women of indulgence. By nature woman generally seeks to obligate man to her, but to be obligated to a woman is to lose the ability to fully enjoy her, for in the presence of duty adventure cannot be fully realised.

So men either realise adventure through a woman by not obligating themselves to her at all, or, they do not realise adventure through women at all and see them as an impediment to fun seeking, and thus ring fence them away from the risky pursuits that "give him the zest of life".
When a woman falls in love with a man who is not obligated to her, precisely because he is so unobtainable, she seeks to destroy the very conditions that brought about her unquenchable desire for him. Should she be successful in obligating him to her, her very passion would die.
Woman's need for safety is not reconcilable with man's desire for adventure. One invariably sacrifices for the other, that is to say, if a woman wants to be a man's source of indulgence, she foregoes security, and if a man is to be a woman's safety - he foregoes much adventure.

In this sense, it is always zero sum between the sexes. Men preside over and preserve civilization and patriarchy as a matter of duty and are told they are oppressive, when it is in fact the most laborious obligation, akin to Atlas or Sisyphus that takes us away from so much play

Women lecture us for how we preside over them, and they lecture us for refusing to preside over them. We're oppressive controllers who want to control their lives when we fulfil our obligations, and immature manboys who "won't step up" when we refuse to obligate ourselves to them

So as you can see, the woman is never truly satisfied or appreciative for what she gets. She is either complaining she can't get anything, or complaining that what she gets is insufficient and not given to her in the right way, or to the right degree by the right man.

She is unable to give herself what she needs, and she doesn't know exactly what she wants, but she always know what she doesn't want, what is inadequate, what is lacking, what could be done different - and it's always whatever is being done for her until nothing is done for her.

And so you see - this very attitude - this very ingratitude in the face of manly obligation does not inspire further obligation. And it is antithetical to fun. How can such a woman be an enjoyable plaything? This is no joy here. Only a desire to escape to pursue adventure.

This is why I find Nietzsche's quote so humorous

Man does not generally look at woman and think "ah, what fun, a source of joy and comfort and respite from all my duty and anguish in this world"

No, he sees her and he thinks "ah, look at that wonderful bundle of responsibility"

True selfishness in man then isn't in oppression through patriarchy, but in the rejection of it

Damaged women do not need saving, men need saving from their desire to save damaged women.

You will never be a damaged woman's greatest love, she will always compare you to "her true love", she will never fully trust you.

Survival of the fittest, there is no greater truism; winners and losers, everyone takes what they can get.

Nothing is owed, everything is game.

Weak and strong in matters of strategy are not effects of appearance in so much as they are a question of the tactical viability and efficacy of a plan.

Remember, when you’re angry, do nothing.

What you want to do will feel like the right thing, but your emotions are lying to you.

Sense has departed you. You are currently a liability to yourself, seeking destruction for gratification’s sake. Find solid ground. Recenter yourself.

A woman stops loving a man when she thinks he isn't great anymore, but a man only stops loving a woman when he thinks she isn't somebody worth protecting anymore. Women need men to be great, whilst men just need women to be virtuous.

As a woman ages, her capacity to attract a top-tier mate decreases, as a man ages, his capacity to attract a top-tier mate increases.

In the relationship game women are smarter than men, for they settle as their value is dropping whilst men will settle as their value continues to rise.

Don't cross a bridge if you see a torch.

If you believe the bridge is getting burnt no matter what happens, then burn it before the other man can, and use the light from the flames to reveal.

A new path.