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Teach yourself the art of denying immediate gratification for the sake of something more important, and show yourself that you already have everything you need, or at least, more than you think you do (even when it doesn't feel like it). 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

Seek out ways to appreciate the way people are, not the way you want them to be.

It is not your job to judge who is deserving of your love and kindness. It is not your job to fix anybody. It is only your job to love them in whatever way is appropriate. You are not anybody else's god. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

The sun regenerates your body— we are as solar-powered as the foods we eat-and to deny your body that source of warmth and light is to deplete your feel-good hormones and everything else you were built to live in.

101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

"What do I want?" is a question you need to ask yourself every day.

What are you doing today? Who do you love? What intrigues you? What would you do today if you could be anyone you wanted? If social media didn't exist? What do you want to do this weekend?

101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

You owe nothing to your younger self. You are not responsible for being the person you once thought you'd be.

But you do owe something to the adult you are today.

101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

Anxiety builds in our idle hours. Fear and resistance thrive when we're avoiding the work that we know needs to be done.

Most things aren't as hard or as trying as we chalk them up to be. They're expressions of who we really are. That's why we want them. Taking small steps will remind you that this is true. It will soothe you in a way that just thinking about taking action never will.

101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

Nothing has to be an essential part of you unless you decide it is — least of all anxiety and fear. In fact, those things are never essentially part of who someone is, they are learned behaviors. They are ego-reactions that go unchecked. They are flashing lights and waving flags from our innermost selves that something is not right. 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

Death gives life meaning.

It's the fact that we can lose what we have that makes it sacred and precious and wonderful. It's not about what pain you suffer; it's about what you suffer for.

You can choose to cut yourself off from feeling good so as to buffer the sense of loss and suffer from numbness, or you can have an incredible life and mourn wildly when it's over, but at least there was a means to that end.

101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest

We are programmed to seek what we've known. So even though we think we're after happiness, we're actually trying to find whatever we're most accustomed to, and we project that on whatever actually exists, over and over again. These are just a few of many psychological impediments that hold us back from the emotional lives we claim to want.

101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think
Brianna Wiest