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If Woman is enlightenment, Man is enlightenment also.

Let's look at this a bit closer then. Are we talking about "all women" / "women in general" / "the majority of women", or capitalized "Woman" as in, the divine manifestation of Yin, the feminine principle? The difference could not be more devastating.

One would be caught in weeping and gnashing one's teeth over a partner only if grasping and clinging to a permanent self:
"Woe is me, the woman is making me reactionary. I will never love a woman again!"
It's necessary to mention that this works the other way around as well. "Woe is me, the man has hurt me, I will never commit to another again."
It works either way, and either way is both unenlightened and natural at the same time.

Ego broken ?
Check your mindset.

Don't want feelings? Then stop being human, I guess.

Tears and pain are a part of human life, and only if we understand them as an absolute cause for suffering, we end up in a bad place. See about your attachments and set some higher standards for finding a partner:

No less than divine, no more than human.
Instead of trying to change the people around you or cutting yourself away from them altogether, envision a situation that already contains the ideal.

If we're striving for a balanced mind, no extreme can ever be a solution. That means neither complete attachment to a partner, nor complete abstinence (or whatever other pair of opposites there may be prevalent in your life) is the way to balance.

However, experiencing the extremes is a potent way to develop the virtue of discernment, and can therefore be seen as a means to the development of an enlightened mind.

The filter of one's mental conceptions creates the experiences of one's life, therefore:

If you could have what you most need right now, what would it be?

And what would it be like if you had it?

Art pleases by reminding, not by deceiving.
— John Constable

Dedication

To the One Who Opens the door

The Door

And the Gate Keeper

And, to the One who walks through

- Sulis Sarasvati, 2015

Turn up the volume on this one.